Better Me

By Alyssa DeFranco

The New Year is supposed to bring new resolve, new confidence, and a new “me,” but I have to admit, I still hate writing about myself. The thought of writing this blog—putting into words the way I feel or sharing a life lesson from my short 30 plus two years (yup, I’m holding on strong) on earth—is daunting. I find it hard to talk about myself—only on paper, of course—and could stare at a blank page and blinking cursor for days. For someone who generally has so much to say, I suddenly become Ralph Kramden from the Honeymooners: “Homina homina homina.”

I have spent most of my life worrying about what others think of me, so committing to the written word makes me feel vulnerable. A spelling error, a misplaced comma, an awkward word choice are chances to not be “perfect” and all it takes is a slip of the fingers to make a mistake. This blog won’t go away and can be read again and again and again by anyone from anywhere. So, I feel the weight of needing to write what best represents me—and what I want for myself this New Year.

The beginning of each year comes with reflection and the hopes of bettering yourself: a gym membership, a new hairstyle (check!), a diet to shed holiday pounds, or, hey, maybe even trying to tone down anxiety levels a bit (the struggle is real). All is fair game. But this year, I really want to focus less on change and more on accepting who I am and what I have to offer both myself and everyone in my world—imperfections and all.

So, here it goes. To a better me…

My 2020 Goals

  1. Be vulnerable. Your first draft doesn’t need to be your final draft—it’s OK to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Life is full of twists and turns. You don’t need to be perfect, just be the best version of you.
  2. Slow down and be present! Enjoy the moment and every aspect of it. Taste, smell, touch…use all of your senses to capture a memory. They’re fleeting.
  3. Appreciate you for you and all of the good, bad, and ugly that comes with it. You’ll have your moments and that’s OK as long as you always continue to reflect and improve.
  4. Be spontaneous. You don’t always need a plan.
  5. Always remember: You are worthy, you are talented, you are only human.